Friday, July 24, 2009

Chutes & Ladders (adoption version)

At present we feel like we are playing Chutes & Ladders. We advance 3 steps forward and find the path puts us 5 steps behind our originally location.

In spite of our last post, it seems our adoption profile was recently shared with a potential birthmother. We were not chosen. The word frustrated best describes our feeling, at this point. All we can do is look ahead to the next time our adoption agency shares our profile.

Below is our score card:
# of times Adoption Profile viewed: 5
# of times not chosen: 3
# of times matched w/birthmothers: 2
# of failed matches (birthmothers chose to parent): 2
# of months/days as a waiting adoptive family: 9 months & 10 days

Friday, July 10, 2009

Now what??

Things seem to be at a stand still. Our adoption profile is not being shown. This is a complicated matter related to birthmother housing and our last two matches. It is our hope that by September our profile will be presented to potential birthmothers. We are waiting to see what transpires later in the fall.

We have no happy events to report as we wait in limbo. We are desperately trying to find some joy in all that has happened and what lies ahead for us. Some days are good but some days are a great struggle. Our friend Karla has reminded us, "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain!"