October is a milestone month for us as we celebrate one year of waiting. It’s kind of a melancholy anniversary of sorts. We have officially spent the last 365 days on the sidelines watching the days unfold at a snail's pace. We feel like children waiting for Santa in July. This is the longest never ending wait!
A lot has happened but we have nothing to show for all our efforts. In spite of our two failed matches; we continue to go forward. We are sad for all that has occurred, but grateful for the life lessons we have learned along the way.
This journey has forced us to look at ourselves and our world in a completely new way. It has been a hard process but very worthwhile. We would never have come to our current realizations without our failures and lessons in grief.
Our adoption agency continues to work on our behalf. They continue to show our profile and search for a match. The agency is doing everything within their power to help us achieve our family goals.
Currently, 12 unmatched birthmothers are working with our adoption agency. We hope that one of these women will choose to work with us in the coming months.
Our child will come to us in time. It is hard to acknowledge, but we are not in control of the situation or outcome. We must continue to have faith in the process and faith in a divine plan.
It takes a great passion and much resilience to proceed on this path. We remind ourselves of Chuck Sigars words, “Calendars are for careful people, not for passionate ones.” Our passion is what keeps us going and time limits can not be imposed.
2008 was Fast & Furious- We have decided to adopt a baby. Yes, I mean a baby not a puppy. A real live baby! NO, I did not say a BABY ALIVE!! That's a doll for gosh sakes.
- We pondered about open adoptions, closed adoptions and surrogacy.
- We found an adoption agency and a wonderful social worker.
- We sold our condo that was high in the sky.
- Actually, we sold our condo to 3 different people 3 different times. Many showings and contracts later we unloaded that "little piece of heaven."
- We purchased a home in a urban family friendly setting.
- It seems we have taken on a whole new life very different from our fancy parties and travels far away.
- Many decorating choices and paint samples later... we are settled in our new home.
- We filled out stacks and stacks of adoption paperwork. I thought it would never end!
- We completed our home study (I'll explain more about that later).
- We completed our life book "profile" and birth mother letter. This took forever!
- After all was said and done... our profile was officially ready to present to potential Birth Mothers on October 14, 2008. We're going to have a baby!!!
- Oh, I (Brandon) Turned 40!!! Remember when you thought 40 was old? SHUT UP!!
- Somehow we acquired another chihuahua puppy. That's another long story, but we now have a pair!
- By the way... I (Brandon) officially became a Catholic. There is a lot to consider before having a kid!
- In between all the chaos we laughed, cried and thanked god for the 17 years we have spent together as a couple.
- We continue to work on the baby's nursery and complete various projects. The project list grows daily... sewing projects, felt mobiles, non-traditional baby books, birth mother mementos, blogs and the list goes on and on.
- We also read and suck up as much knowledge as we can about babies. What will life be like after our baby arrives?
- And finally... we wait! Each day we learn more about patience and wait and wait some more. We wait to be chosen and we wait for fate to shine upon us.
- Oh, did I tell you... WE'RE GOING TO HAVE A BABY!!
October is a milestone month for us as we celebrate one year of waiting. It’s kind of a melancholy anniversary of sorts. We have officially spent the last 365 days on the sidelines watching the days unfold at a snail's pace. We feel like children waiting for Santa in July. This is the longest never ending wait!
